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| WHAT TO NOT DO ON A FIRST DATE WITH A GUY |
There’s a lot of advice floating around the web when it comes to dating—what to wear, what to eat, what to talk about, what to never, ever write on an online profile—and while most of this info is actually pretty useful, the fact remains that the best first dates are the ones where you’re able to be yourself. Still, we can all agree that there are certain things that just shouldn’t be done, or spoken about on a first date—by a woman or a man.
Here, tips that outline what not to do on a first date if you’re looking to make a confident impression.
Here, tips that outline what not to do on a first date if you’re looking to make a confident impression.
DON’T be wishy-washy.
Nobody—and we mean nobody—likes a pushover, so if your date tells you he’s planned dinner at a sushi joint and you don’t eat fish, or he wants to hang at a cocktail lounge but you don’t drink, speak up. It’ll only look weird if you tell him all that after you’re already seated and waiting to order. Same goes for being decisive: If he asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, whatever is fine.”
Nobody—and we mean nobody—likes a pushover, so if your date tells you he’s planned dinner at a sushi joint and you don’t eat fish, or he wants to hang at a cocktail lounge but you don’t drink, speak up. It’ll only look weird if you tell him all that after you’re already seated and waiting to order. Same goes for being decisive: If he asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, whatever is fine.”
DON’T show up late on purpose.
On a first date, you’ll make a stronger impression if you show up on time. Would you want him to show up late? Probably not. Huh? It takes you two hours to do your hair and makeup? Sounds like you’re perfectly aware of that fact, which means you’ll know exactly how much time you need to prepare ahead of time, even if it’s five hours (no judgment!)
On a first date, you’ll make a stronger impression if you show up on time. Would you want him to show up late? Probably not. Huh? It takes you two hours to do your hair and makeup? Sounds like you’re perfectly aware of that fact, which means you’ll know exactly how much time you need to prepare ahead of time, even if it’s five hours (no judgment!)
DON’T wear things that are too high, too short, or too tight.
And not because of what he might think—this tip is for you, and you alone. A first date isn’t the time to take those fierce six-inch stilettos out for a spin, or wear that dress that you think is a little too tight. Why? Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse.
And not because of what he might think—this tip is for you, and you alone. A first date isn’t the time to take those fierce six-inch stilettos out for a spin, or wear that dress that you think is a little too tight. Why? Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse.
DON’T be surgically attached to your phone.
This is the big one, ladies: The act of compulsively checking your phone every two minutes could be a bonafide deal breaker. There’s nothing ruder than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly stating at their screens—wouldn’t you be put off if he were paying more attention to his iPhone than to you?
This is the big one, ladies: The act of compulsively checking your phone every two minutes could be a bonafide deal breaker. There’s nothing ruder than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly stating at their screens—wouldn’t you be put off if he were paying more attention to his iPhone than to you?
DON’T sit there like the Queen of Sheba when the check comes.
Even if you’re of the firm belief that your date should always pay, it’s a mistake to assume he will—especially on the first date. If he goes for the check right away, offer to split the bill, or at least leave the tip. He’ll probably decline, so make sure you offer to get the cab to the next destination, the movie tickets, or a round of drinks.
Even if you’re of the firm belief that your date should always pay, it’s a mistake to assume he will—especially on the first date. If he goes for the check right away, offer to split the bill, or at least leave the tip. He’ll probably decline, so make sure you offer to get the cab to the next destination, the movie tickets, or a round of drinks.
Don’t not ask questions—just make them the right ones.
A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply ask your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. The trick successfully vetting a potential suitor on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask, and how to ask them.
A foolproof way to ensure that conversation will always be flowing is to simply ask your date things, although—given the fact that we never know how comfortable others are with casual conversation—that might be easier said than done. The trick successfully vetting a potential suitor on a first date, while simultaneously keeping the energy light and fun, is knowing what questions to ask, and how to ask them.
